Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Don’t be “Torpe”, ask her for a date

The love month is almost over. But your dream girl is still there, and you’re watching her. Won’t you do anything? 

Though male teenagers nowadays are brave enough and can naturally ask any girl for a date, there are still some who can’t even say a simple “hello” to the girl they’ve much admired. The Filipino term for a guy who lacks confidence in talking to the girl they like is “torpe”.
This is the most common problem some guys are facing, particularly those who never had a date ever since they were born – which is true to some. Some guys freeze like ice while others become mute when their love interest is near. Probably, these guys lack confidence and don’t have experience yet, in any boy-girl relationship. 

In this article of The NORSUnian, we will help you unravel your true manhood and unleash the best in you – your natural talent for courtship. 

Greet her with a smile. Every time you meet her in the campus or just anywhere you see her, give her that pleasant smile of yours associated with a nice “hello!” that is said in a very gracious way. In that manner, she’ll think that you’re friendly, and you care about her presence. 

You have her number, proceed to the next step. You already have her number, and you did a good job. Good because it means that she knows you already, and she might know a little information about you. Her knowing your name, course, or anything little regarding your personality is not that bad, you should be happy. It means that you are enlisted in her thoughts, and she treats you as one of her friends. 

Be thoughtful. A simple text message for her in the morning and night will make her feel that you are attentive to her daily life. Asking her how’s her day or if she has eaten her meal already can be one of those typical subjects that you may want to discuss about. The message should only be for her with her name on it so that she’ll be aware that you especially sent that message for her. 

Don’t be too obvious. Many guys always make this kind of mistake. Remember, girls don’t like men who are too obvious about their feelings, so try to be a little discreet about your “overflowing” feelings for her. Most of the girls give a “minus point” to those guys who act so noticeable about their affection, because for them, it is weird. Put a thrill in your blooming relationship, it will bring excitement and enthusiasm for both of you. 

Ways to approach her. Most guys would depend on their cellphones when they ask a girl for a meeting, but that’s not cool. Women want surprises, and they love unpredictable things to happen just like when you approach her after her class and talk to her about anything under the sun. But be sure that she won’t get bored. You can make the conversation livelier by switching to different topics which both of you can relate with. 

Listen to her and ask questions. It is an additional “pogi point” if you are a good listener. Women admire men who listen to them when they talk. It shows that you are interested in what they are telling and that you care. Apart from a good listening, ask questions frequently so that you’ll exchange ideas, and she’ll talk more. The conversation will flow smoothly, and you’ll know more about her life and personality. In that way, dull moments can be avoided.
Join a club that she’s into. When both of you have one thing in common, it gives you another subject to talk about. Whether you’ll join the varsity team, choir group, religious groups, and other organizations in school, it doesn’t matter, as long as you like it and enjoy it. It can be a chance that you’ll know her better and get close to her. A desire to improve your physical or intellectual skills is attractive to most women. They’ll think that you have something that other common males don’t have.
Give compliments. Don’t ignore her nice dress, shoes, or looks every time you see her. Give her any word of praise that is true and appropriate at that time. Notice her charming eyes, face, or perhaps, you can tell her how beautiful she is in her outfit. In that way, you are giving her a hint that you value the things she is having. But don’t exaggerate the compliment. Women like simple and true compliment that are said in a nice and gentle manner. 

Understand her, be patient. Women are unpredictable. She’s maybe in the good mood yesterday, but it doesn’t mean that she’ll retain that same mood today. They want guys who can understand them. Be patient to her because you have feelings for her. Tell her that you aren’t affected with any of her mood-swings and that you understand her a lot because you care for her. 

Be the joker-serious type. Guys with these two qualities are the ones that most women like to be with. Females love to be with males who know how to make dull moments turn into a livelier one. And if you have these unique characteristics, then there is a greater chance that she’ll spend more time with you since these are their bases of a guy who has a sense of humor. Meaning, you are flexible enough to make her laugh when she’s sad, while you can be the serious-type guy when she needs advises and assistance. 

Be real and be you. Above all, there is no other best way to win the heart of your one true love but to show her who and what you really are. Don’t pretend because that’s the things the she’s looking for in a man. You need to be real and act the way you really are, because in a blooming relationship, lies have no place – truth and sincerity shall abide. 

As a teenager, affection, love, and courtship are one of the common things that you would experience – whether you like it or not, it will happen. Winning and losing may come along the way. You might lose a few times, but there’s nothing to worry, and there is nothing to rush about. Like every prince in every fairytale, a princess is fated to be with him in a happy ever after story.
Source: FHM, COSMO,

How to make good first impression on your first date

‘First times’ in our lives will be thoroughly inculcated in our minds. It is like a scar that can never be erased in our thoughts. As days and years go by, the sweet and bitter memories of the ‘first times’ will always be a part of us.

As teenagers, all of us have felt love and most of us experienced having a hard time during our first dates. As the make or break part in the “getting-to-know-each-other” stage, first dates are always a problem.

And because we want you to do and look your best, The NORSUnian will give you some tips to improve your dating skills and impress that date of yours.

Dress well to impress her/him. The way you choose your outfit is based on the type of people you want to attract. In dressing up, you must consider their personal likes and dislikes. For creative people, they lean more on graphically interesting fabrics and color while the professionals and serious types prefer darker and clean-clothing lines.

Taking into consideration your body type and combining it with up-to-date trends for your dating attire can also be overwhelming. For girls, you don’t have to choose backless dresses, instead, use the ones that are not so sexy but can still reveal your curves and hidden beauty. It is a matter of wearing a perfect blended outfit that will leave your date speechless and stunned.

Here are some things you may also want to consider:

• Don’t wear an outfit you are not comfortable with. If you are going to be constantly adjusting your tie or button-up collar, better not wear them.
• Wearing well-fitted clothes which are not too baggy or too tight will reveal more of your feminine curves and will show a firmer and sexier masculinity for men.
• Dress appropriately for the occasion. For girls, do not dress cleavage-revealing tops especially if your date is quite conservative.
• Don’t try to be too trendy. Leave experimentation with your look for a time when you are in a stable relationship.
• Don’t wear brand new shoes. They have the potential to hurt your feet and make your time miserable.
• Don’t wear clothes just because of their brand names. Choose the clothes that fit you best.
• Don’t overdo it. Just be as simple as possible yet very well-prepared.
Dressing up the right way will surely make your date special because you took the time and effort to look good for him or her.
Be clean and simple. “Simple is beautiful.” When you are meeting or getting to know someone for the first time, make sure you are showing off the right ambiance. It means that you must be emotionally and physically neutral, not overdoing anything from the way you look up to the way you act.
Keeping your outfit clean and simple will improve your physical features and boost your confidence. It is also a way of getting people notice you. You should always remember that a little can go a long way.
• Be simple in the way you wear your clothes. Don’t overdress by wearing something that is out for the occasion. Like wearing a glittery dress while your date is at the park. You’re not going to disco!
• Don’t wear too much stuff like accessories and gold-plated jewelries. Pick the nice one that suits you best.
• Do have clean hands and well manicured nails.
• Do have well-groomed hair and a clean haircut.
• Don’t wear heavy make-up. Your date might think that you are trying to hide something.

Act as if you‘re meeting an old friend. If you just imagine that the person you have just met and are talking to is one of your best friends, you probably can adjust unconsciously.
Open up your body-language to a very friendly and warm position and reduce any nervousness or weirdness in your tone of voice and body-language. The nice thing about this is that you may also start to feel positive feelings towards this new person, just as you do with your friends when you meet him/her. This is a pretty good starting-point in developing a good relationship.
Use your body language. Smile. Don’t cross your arms or legs. Turn your body towards the people you’re shaking hands with or talking to so that your body language is friendly and open. Make relaxed eye contact, and do not stare at your date when talking or listening to him. When you break eye-contact, try to do it in a slow manner. Do not let your eyes just split away. Making eye-contact can be a little bit hard but if you work at it, you will get used to it.
Remember that your eyes is the window of your soul. Thus, with eye-contacts, you can show your date the real you.
Stand up straight and don’t think too much. Keeping a good posture certainly improves the impression one makes. Sit or stand up straight. Try, as much as possible, to focus only to the person you are talking to rather than focusing on yourself and the people surrounding you.

Be positive. Positive deeds will produce positive outcomes.
If you bust out the first dates in the past, there is a big chance that this time your date will mentally label you in a different way.

A better way to convey a positive attitude in a first meeting is to assess the mood of your date before you start to open your mouth. When you have an emotional connection and the other person feels the same way, it is the time that you can let your charm rise a bit more.
Mentally rehearse before you even enter the room. Visualize how great the events will unfold, see and hear it, and also how great will you feel this time.

See yourself smiling and having a great time. See the excellent outcome in your mind. Then visualize that it has already happened, that the date is over with the desired result. This is surprisingly effective and will get you into a great and relaxed mood during first dates.
A simple “Hi!” combined with an adoring smile may do just fine in starting a perfect conversation.

Be yourself. This is probably the most important thing anyone should put in before going on a date.

Don’t pretend to be somebody you’re not. If you’re a loud person, say it, be it.... You don’t want your date to assume that you are the other way around. Being yourself would assure you that your date likes you not because you are rich, etcetera which you may not be in reality.

If you follow these simple steps, it is much assured that your date will go on well. Good luck and be prepared because your date might be the one you’re looking for.

Source: FHM, COSMO,